Who’s to blame?
I have another news article that was ’starred’ in my Google Reader that is up for my commentary today. This particular article originally ran August 15th, 2008 from Fox News, but still deserves my commentary opinion.
“Murdered Gay Boy’s Family Blames School for Letting Him Wear Makeup”
“The family of a gay teenager who was fatally shot in class blames the school district for allowing their son to wear makeup and feminine clothing to school — factors the family claims led to the death.”
A little review on my part actually shows that I am late to this party! Even Ellen DeGeneres has discussed this on her TV show, I am sure though in a much different light than I look at it. After all Ellen is openly homosexual (not gay, gay is happy, not some un-condoned sexual orientation) a sexual orientation I don’t agree with. Am I a homosexual basher – no. I will not openly go out to bash, hate, of anything of that existence toward homosexuals, but I feel morally homosexuality in wrong. My morality probably runs from the religion in which I was raised, the fact of our God given anatomy, and how that anatomy is suppose to work. Now off my homosexuality is wrong issues, and onto this boy’s cross-dressing habits.
When a person dresses in drag, as a drag queen, or a cross dresser I would really expect they might see some ridicule. I surely expect they made the choice to dress in drag of their own free will. Let me say up front I DO NOT THINK IT WAS RIGHT FOR THIS HOMOSEXUAL CROSS DRESSING BOY TO BE SHOT! Murder is not okay in any circumstances! This is about the lawsuit his parent filed against the school district. Back to my own free will issue, if this boy dressed in drag of his own free will how is it the school’s fault that he didn’t dress per code? This wasn’t the first time the boy had dressed in drag, he knew the ridicule, I am sure. At 15 years old didn’t his parents know or see him with the dress-in-drag issue? Did he leave their house dressed in drag? Don’t the parents have responsibility for their own 15 year old child? Does the child as a teenager share in any of the responsibility? It truly bothers me that people so look to blame others for issues that need to be placed squarely within their own personal space, home, and shoulders. The death of their son does belong to the boy who shot him, no one else can take that blame; but the clothing he chose to wear was also his own responsibility.
There truly is a fine line of acceptance of peoples’ differences. I truly don’t support homosexuality, cross-dressers, plus a huge host of other immoral activities, but not supporting is not lashing out. I would never lash out at their differences, on many levels it is their choice, not mine. I always feel that God works with each person, helping them find their way in this arena of life; it is not my position to play God, to demoralize those that have that battle of ‘doing the right thing’. But when one makes their choice to be whom or what they want they must accept the issues, and responsibilities that go along with that decision, period.
This could also go in my category of frivolous lawsuits, yet I feel others would take some sort of offense to it because of the issues at hand. I hope these parents don’t win this lawsuit. I do understand the pain these parents are going through at the loss of a child, trying to understand, but this is not the correct way to find solace. The better way to deal with the death of their son would be to deal with the child that shot him, sue his parent for neglecting an education of differences, of not liking something without persecuting others.